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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am impressed with your BIL - flying with a 1 YO and 3 YO by himself.  How long is the flight? 
(These is no way I would watch kids after that)
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🙄 everyone is always impressed by a man who does what a mom does daily.

Don’t watch your BILs kids he assumed he’d hatch into your plan without even asking first.  Nannies don’t want to watch 4 kids overnight!

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But he did ask, right?  
Three months prior to the wedding, he called and said that he was planning on coming out and asked if their [b]nanny[/b] could watch all four kids or if they could hire childcare together.

Personally, I wouldn’t go to this wedding either.  But I would if DH’s brother was flying into town for it.  That’s a different situation.

I would also watch my BIL’s kids for an evening so that [b]DH could hang out with his brother.[/b]  I wouldn’t expect someone [b]flying in from out of town to arrange their own childcare.[/b]  [/quote]

The OP situation is:
wedding is 2 hours drive for OP one way-traffic?  
no kids wedding is at 3 pm on a Friday- ceremony. Reception?
intended babysitter by MIL is OP not a nanny- OP uses PTO, rents a hotel room, all to babysit?

This thing is not a fly to DCA and all local wedding events.  This MIL is so off base- what's next for BIL's benefit on the request list?  Airport pick up in Philadlphia and OP lives in Rockville?

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I guess that the way I read it is that the wedding is 2 hours away, which isn’t local, but is definitely an easy day trip.  BIL assumed that his brother was going, and he called several months before the wedding to see if they could share childcare.  
OP’s only childcare option is herself.  BIL asked about hiring a sitter they could share so they could all go to the wedding.  OP shot that down.  So, MIL asked if OP could just watch all of the kids.  
I’m not saying that they are perfect, but this isn’t a heinous ask.

Also, remember that BIL is not anxious about taking care of kids.  He’s bringing his 1 & 3 year old on the plane and not worried about it.  He probably doesn’t think that feeding four kids Mac n cheese and putting them in pajamas is going to go terribly badly either.

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