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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t feel bad for the spouse or the children who are teen and college aged. What I can’t figure out is, he says he loves his wife and doesn’t want to cheat, ended our sexual relationship but continues to contact me about his daily life, work, hobbies all the time. Multiple times a day. First thing in the morning. Last thing in the evening. I wish he’d just leave his wife.

We have remained extremely emotionally close, despite the no romance or sex boundary. Which guts me. But I love him and would rather keep him in life as a friend than not have him at all. [/quote]

I am not judging you because I have been in your shoes but it is time to cut this guy off.  Yes, he’ll keep you around forever for the validation and ego boost that you give him.  He knows that you are sitting there pining away for him and that feels good.  I know you love him, I loved mine too.  But what you are doing is wrong, for you, for him, and for his real family that doesn’t include you.  You can never be a legitimate part of his life and that hurts but it’s time to move on.  You’re also complicit in harming his wife and family.  He’s made it clear- he chooses his wife.  Move on.[/quote]

Amen.  I don’t like what this poster^ was part of one bit.  Not all and I seriously hope she never does this again to another woman’s marriage/family or cheats on her own, but she is spot on:

He loves his wife and he loves having you pine over him and flatter him (but does not love U).  It’s a huge ego boost, just the external validation he needs.  He doesn’t truly care, he’s told her as much but it’s falling on her deaf ears. He got his fill of sex from you, dabbled outside but no longer has that curiosity or need. [/quote]

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