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[quote=Anonymous][quote=FBO][quote=Anonymous]My sex life has nothing to do with my kids.  I know I am a great mother and if I decided to have an affair, it would have nothing to do with them.  If the fall out was that my husband and I divorced, then I am confident that I would be a great single mom and continue to meet their needs like I do everyday.

If my husband was a saint, I would not be considering an affair.  Hurt goes both ways in that regard.  If I find some happiness being with another man, so be it.  It is better than where I am at now.[/quote]

I dont really want to pick on this post but the poster makes an assumption that I wanted to ask about.

You state that if you did cheat, and things went downhill with your DH, that you would divorce and be a good single mother.  Im just curious as to what makes you think you would still be a single mother after you cheated and facilitated a divorce?  Would your current DH just let you have the kids like that and be no part?

I only ask because if my ex had cheated on me and that was why we had gotten a divorce, I would make it VERY difficult, if not completely impossible for her to ever get custody of our child.

Just a thought anyway.[/quote]

PP here:

If we had to go the family court route, I can easily proove I have always been the primary care giver of our children.  When they were little, I put my career on hold to be with them full time.  Now that they are older, my work schedule revolves around their schedule so I am the one who gets them to school, goes to parent teacher meetings, picks them up after school, and take them to their after school activities.  Even if my husband was as vendictive as you, I don't think he would push the custody issue because he wouldn't want the responsibility or the change in his lifestyle.  I have already checked out options with a divorce attorney and if I went that route there is stuff in husband's corner that I could strongly challenge/limit his access to the kids.

As others have indicated, our marriage isn't black and white and it is complicated why we remain married.  An affair for me would be an escape, a way to find the affection I do not get in my marriage.  If I found a man that could accept my situation for what it is and could be discrete, then I could easily see myself going forward with the affair.[/quote]

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