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[quote=Anonymous][quote=FBO][quote=Anonymous][quote=FBO][quote=Anonymous]My sex life has nothing to do with my kids.  I know I am a great mother and if I decided to have an affair, it would have nothing to do with them.  If the fall out was that my husband and I divorced, then I am confident that I would be a great single mom and continue to meet their needs like I do everyday.

If my husband was a saint, I would not be considering an affair.  Hurt goes both ways in that regard.  If I find some happiness being with another man, so be it.  It is better than where I am at now.[/quote]

I dont really want to pick on this post but the poster makes an assumption that I wanted to ask about.

You state that if you did cheat, and things went downhill with your DH, that you would divorce and be a good single mother.  Im just curious as to what makes you think you would still be a single mother after you cheated and facilitated a divorce?  Would your current DH just let you have the kids like that and be no part?

[b]I only ask because if my ex had cheated on me and that was why we had gotten a divorce, I would make it VERY difficult, if not completely impossible for her to ever get custody of our child.
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Just a thought anyway.[/quote]

So vindictive. Isn't it about what is best for the child and not your own need for revenge?[/quote]

Why is that vindictive?  It would come down to trust.  If I lost all trust in a spouse, then how could I trust them with our kid?  Whos to say that they will not make more irresponsilbe decisions that DO later hurt the child.  Also, if you look at patterning, this happens all the time but with the roles reversed.  Daddy does something wrong, and mommy makes it her lifes mission to make him pay for it using the kid.  Its a stereotype becuase it happens all the time.  Thsi would be no different.

Either way, its a crappy situation to be in.  I just asked the question to see if others thought about it as well.[/quote]

So you think that having an affair indicates that a mother is generally irresponsible and can't be a good parent? The point is that the kid needs her mom. Sure, it's a crappy situation and people do it all the time but that doesn't make it right.[/quote]

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