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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And, you OP have responsibility to protect relationship of your daughter with her blood aunt or uncle and not let money grabber greedy stepdaughter mess it up[/quote]

Right because blood is automatically always more important than your relationship with your spouse...[/quote]

I would definitely put my daughter before my spouse who was trying to drive a wedge between us. Spouse is easily replaced.[/quote]

I'm not referring to the daughter I'm referring to his brother. Why does he owe his brother loyalty over the woman he chose to marry??

Everyone here seems to say his relationship with his brother is more important than his relationship with his wife. Your wife is now your immediate family and after marriage your siblings become extended family[/quote]

Think it through, if you shut down the trips with the loving aunt and uncle you risk alienating the daughter. It's all related. OP has only been married 6 months and the wife is pulling the bait and switch. She knew about these trips, and now she's trying to change the rules to her benefit. I wouldn't jeopardize my relationship with my daughter for a duplicitous spouse.[/quote]

6 months or 60 years you are still married just the same. Don't marry someone with kids if you put your relationship with your brother over the relationship with your step kids.[/quote]

You know marriages can be ended with divorce, right? The daughter is forever the spouse is not. [/quote]

I'm talking about the brother. You should owe your wife and children a little more than your sibling[/quote]

Mmkay. Then the BROTHER is forever. The spouse is not.[/quote]

I'm so shocked everyone on here thinks the brother should be more important than your own spouse. Do you create a family with your sibling? Did you make vows with your sibling? You literally create vows with your spouse not your sibling. Once married you are creating your own nuclear family and putting them first.

Would you expect your own spouse to put their sibling ahead of you just based on principle that they are your sibling?[/quote]

Those vows are worth nothing. They are dispensed with when they are inconvenient. You don’t need vows with siblings because they remain your sibling no matter what. Same with parents.

[b]Considering the OP and his evil wife were both previously married, it is laughable to talk about “vows to put them first”. [/quote][/b]

This. For all the people saying that spouses are forever, OP and his wife both know that this isn’t true. OP is on his second marriage, his brother is still his brother. I could see this marriage dissolving and OP still having a good relationship with his brother. It’s not nice to talk about, but it’s true. [/quote]

Ok but he he is still married to his current wife so at this juncture his loyalty should go to his wife over his brother. [/quote]

“loyalty” does not mean you put up with whatever bullsh*t your spouse pulls. And here, he needs to be loyal to his CHILD first and foremost. That means absolutely not tolerating his wife’s obvious attempt to sabotage her trip and her fanning the flames of jealousy among the children. [/quote]

Putting the CHILD or children first is the reason so many marriages on this board fail or are sexless.  [/quote]
But the wife is also putting her children first! She spoke to her husband about it he said he disagreed and she decided to go directly to the brother on behalf of her kids. [/quote]

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