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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP the disturbing pattern here is that you didn’t stand up for anyone except your daughter—including yourself.

Your wife is 100% wrong.

Your brother is 100% right BUT he did disrespect your wife and family in the way he expressed it bc he knew full well the problems that would create for you and how now you won’t be able to have him over at your house. He doesn’t like your wife, fine: he doesn’t get to say so. And he certainly doesn’t get to insult your step kids. He gets to say no. You chose this woman and these kids and made them your family and yes, your loyalty should be to them not your brother. That’s not to say She isn’t wrong. She is. But he can say no without degrading your family. OTOH you wife is absolutely trying to sabotage this relationship and your daughter’s relationship with her uncle, and you need to defend that to the teeth.

So: 
1) you didn’t defend your wife against your brother
2) you didn’t defend your daughter against your wife
3) you didn’t defend yourself against your wife and have been sleeping on the sofa.

Your wife is the common denominator and source of these problems. However, she’s your wife now, and you need to defend your own family and yourself.[/quote]

BIL did not insult the wife or stepchildren.  He said he did not like them when she asked why he would not agree to pay for them.[/quote]

She didn’t ask him to pay for them.  Where are you getting that?[/quote]

She asked him to take them but did not offer to pay for it.  Put 2+2 together.   [/quote]

OP didn’t say that she didn’t offer to pay for it.  Why wouldn’t she?  She pays for everything else for her kids. [/quote]

Who cares if the wife offered to pay or not. The brother is still not obligated to be responsible for her children on an overseas trip, a trip to Cali, or a trip to Walmart. He doesn't like her kids, he doesn't have to take them anywhere. [/quote]

You’re right.  The brother doesn’t like the wife and kids, and he doesn’t have to.  The OP should just tell him that if he can’t get along with his wife and kids, then he isn’t welcome in their home anymore.  
Then it’s up to the wife to decide if/when it’s okay for him to come over again.  
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That’s hilarious. And not going to happen.

Princess wife needs to take a seat.[/quote]

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