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[quote=Anonymous]I come from a blended family and I can absolutely see being disappointed if my step-family took my step-sibs on some amazing vacation I wasn't invited on. But (1) my family blended when all the kids were much younger (5-9) and there was a half sibling to all of us involved too and (2) it would still absolutely have been their right to do it & similar (though not quite a blatant) things went on in my family because extended family often doesn't blend well. (I was also on the other side of it from the perspective of spending money; my mom gave me way more spending money than they got from their dad or my dad/their mom and I know that was a source of resentment for them... Though I was quite generous with that money.) Now, that said, I think my dad & step-mother would have tried to do something special for me in this scenario; obviously not an equivalent trip, but something. Obviously this OP's scenario is different because the "kid" is 18 & the family blend just happened... but still, to keep the peace & because the disappointment isn't crazy, I'd try to do something I could afford that my step-kids would like when my daughter was gone.

FWIW I think OP's brother is completely right in substance but 100% should not have replied like that to his SIL. OP absolutely should have told brother off for the tone while acknowledging the underlying request was totally unreasonable. OP has to decide if he's willing to let his brother drive a wedge in his family, because he 100% is determined to. No one who cares responds like that to a first request, however unreasonable.[/quote]

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