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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does anyone else view being a SAHM as being a luxury?  We can't afford it, but I view the option to live off 1 salary as being a luxury.   A few of my friends have the same view.[/quote]

Its a luxury in an ego free, loving, committed marriage where it doesn't matter who is doing what and who is earning what. Combined goal is to have a happy, healthy and smoothly functioning prosperous household.

In a marriage where a partner's value is merely dependent on their earnings or chore-ing, fidelity is not a given and egos clash regularly or money is very tight, its not a luxury but a liability for both partners.

Same goes for two job family, if egos are fragile, fidelity is questionable, dividing money and chores is a battle than material luxuries are of little benefit.[/quote]

Spoken like a true DCUMer. Most people here have no idea what it's like to not have money. They just don't understand in the slightest. Two people without money and kids with a lot of needs or needs of their own no matter what love they have for each other will have issues. They understand it's a luxury they can't afford for either the mom or dad to stay home.[/quote]

Plenty of people without money stay at home. Either the mom earns so little it makes sense not to work or the dads job, while not high earning, makes it hard for the mom to find a steady job. Think enlisted military. They aren’t making lots but high numbers of SAHMs especially at some remote bases [/quote]

My point was that it's not just about egos as and long as your ego is in check then it's smooth sailing whether you both work or not. Money is central to raising a family. Often both parents have to work and grandma raises the children. The military has serious benefits compared to civilian life along with many issues they are dealing with as well.[/quote]

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