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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why does division of labor in a two adult partnership have to be SO gender-based? Women do the non-paid labor, men made the decisions that impact lots of people or make lots of money. Men have offices and staff, women wash dishes, vacuum and dress drooling toddlers. If we are actually intellectual equals, why is this not offensive? (And who thinks it is not sending negative messages, to the children growing up in such environments?)[/quote] Counter-point as a SAHM I was actually able to enjoy my intelligence. I listened to history and philosophy podcasts while cleaning and doing laundry. I took my kids to amazing art museums. And I was able teach myself photography and other creative skills. Meanwhile my DH does command a decent salary, but a lot of his day is responding to emails. When I went back to work it was just a lot of meeting complaining about bother departments and copy and pasting spreadsheets. Was insanely intellectually under-stimulated, but it paid well. That said, in our society money = power and it does influence dynamics within a marriage. When the kids were little it didn’t feel that way for me, but it definitely does now that they are older. [/quote]
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