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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband just returned to work from paternity leave and I'm on maternity leave. He WFH most days out of the week, with some days at the office. Our newborn wakes up 2-3 times a night to eat. We had a system in place where we would take shifts - I went to bed after bedtime feeding and husband took first feeding to give me 4-5 hour uninterrupted stretch of sleep. I then handled the 1-2 additional wakings and he got up with him for the morning feed so I can sleep in. I know the mornings we need to be adjusted now that he is back to work, but he has since decided that he can no longer wake up a night with working. I think he is being unreasonable, but he thinks I should handle all of the night feeds since I will be home and able to nap. It's been very hard on me the last week doing it by myself and my husband won't budge. This has caused tension between us this past week that blew up into a big fight this past weekend. I'm very mad at him. Help me. [/quote]

When I was on maternity leave and DH returned to work, I did ALL night feedings.  WTH is wrong with you?  That's the whole point of maternity leave - you don't have to work because you aren't sleeping doing night feedings. [b] If you want to sleep, go back to work[/b]. [/quote]

This is a weird take to me. Only if you work are you allowed sleep? DH didnt grow a human for 9 months. DH didnt deplete many essential vitamins and minerals- even with supplementation, the body is depleted. DH doesnt have huge hormonal swings- OP have you had your night sweats yet? DH isnt breastfeeding, pumping, or using up any of the calories/energy that those require. DH isnt healing from childbirth.

Maternity leave is NOT for night feeds. Thats ridiculous. Some babies sleep 5-6 hours from week 4. Should those women not get maternity leave? [/quote]

Oh stop.  Maternity leave, beyond 3 weeks to recover from child birth, is medical leave because new moms ARE TIRED AS F--.

And FMLA is a general 12 to 16 week leave law.  There's no law adjusting the leave period based on a baby's sleep habits.  [/quote]

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