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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love two women, can we legally get married?  Seriously, why not?  Give me one good reason other than bigotry towards my beliefs.

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Legally, polygamy causes too many complications.  The state has a legitimate interest in ensuring that property rights, inheritance, parental responsibility, medicare and social security entitlements, etc. can be pinned down to the two individuals who make up the married entity.  Those are about the only legitimate interests the state SHOULD have in any marriage.

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Legally, gay marriage causes too many complication. The state has a legitimate interest .....the rest of what you said.  What about the complications when a gay couple marries and one of the partners has a biological child that the other parent adopts, then they divorce?  Complicated?  What about when they use donor eggs, implanted in one parent, and then the couple splits up before the child is born? Complicated?  
Further, how is is any more complicated than a hetero woman with 5 children and 4 baby daddies, 2 in jail, living with a 5th who is father to none, etc. etc.  Now that's complicated.

Or a wealthy couple who started a business together, got divorced, got remarried, husband continued to run company, turned into billion dollar company, then he dies.  Complicated to figure that out with who gets what? (Wife from first marriage sued since she technically was start up of company)  From personal experience, very very very complicated.

Anything other reasons against polygamy than "its complicated?"

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Ok lets break you "complicated" examples down.  Ex 1: gay couple marries, second parent adopts the child and they divorce (if they're married, the second parent would not need to adopt the child becuase he/she will be the presumed parent of children produced from the marriage...see how marriage equality helps!).  If both spouses are the legal  parents of the child, this is no more complicated than a husband and wife divorcing and sharing custody of their children because they are the legal parents.

Ex 2: donor egg implanted into one partner of the marriage and then the couple divorces/splits up (this is a funky hypothetical because it assumes a lesbian couple that is using an egg not biologically related to either wife? weird, but i guess possible): again, if theyre married, theyre both presumed to be the parents of the child.  The donor of the egg likely signs away her legal parental rights to the child, so this is no different than a heterosexual couple with children divorcing and doing custody.  Marriage helps make these "complicated" situations easy because both partners have parents rights over the children produced during their marriage.

ex 3: woman with 5 kids, 4 baby daddies, and living with a man who isnt the father to any: what is complicated about this?  her current man has no legal obligation to any of the children, and the babies fathers have child support obligations.  This also isnt complicated

ex 4: wealthy couple who divorces: when they divorced i'm sure they were awarded a % share of the company or one had to buy the other out. i'm not sure why this is complicated either...

Polygamy, on the other hand, is complicated.  If there are 4 wives and one husband, who makes medical decisions if the husband is hospitalized and the four wives disagree?  Whose voice is the deciding factor?  If the husband dies, how would the default inheritance rule (goes to your spouse) work?  Would it be divided equally among the four wives or divided based on length of marriage?  Would the husband's employer be forced to provide health insurance for all four wives and the dozens of children produced?  Which of the four wives would be entitled to the husband's pension if he died?

The only change to heterosexual marriage that would need to be made to accommodate same-sex couples is changing the "husband's name" and "wife's name" to "spouse 1" and "spouse 2" in all relevant documentation.    [/quote]

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