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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People post to show they are popular.
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+1, it's a way to take the culture of middle school and high school, where everyone knows what their peers are up to all the time, and extend it indefinitely into adulthood. That's why some people love it (they are getting validation like a prom queen and it feels good) and some people hate it (they are invisible or worse, ridiculed). It's no different than how some people love high school and some don't, and so much depends on how popular you are.

There are also a not-insignificant number of people on social media who were unpopular in school and use the culture of Facebook as a kind of re-do. I've had a few friends and acquaintances like this. They were awkward and lonely in high school, but in their 20s and 30s they figure out how to look better and how to use social media to really boost their image. Part of the allure for someone like this is that they are trying to undo the damage of feeling unpopular all those years ago.

But people who like social media tend to be people who have stuff to brag about, because it gives them a venue to do so. Whether you think that's good or bad probably depends a bit on where you are at in your own life. I think it's unsurprising that a lot of moms with young kids are burning out on it because I think it's a uniquely vulnerable time for a lot of women -- dealing with weight gain and loss of sleep and freedom, trying to figure out who you are in this new role of mother, wanting to make new friends who can relate to you as a mom, but also trying to juggle stuff like work or the loneliness of being a SAHM. New motherhood is basically a second adolescence for a lot of women (I've actually heard it called matrescence or the period of maturing into motherhood). It's often even a time with acne flare ups and unpredictable periods, just like adolescence. It's no wonder many women in this stage find social media triggering.[/quote]

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