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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two parents working a combined 100 plus hours per week need to outsource household tasks and childcare, or it won’t work. You either outsource or reduce hours (one or both of you). The current expectations are not reasonable.

-doctors wife who also works [/quote]

Why are you combining hours like that/ is there actually zero overlap in your working schedules? made up marketing stats aren’t going to help anyone. [/quote]

I think a lot of people would be happier if they combined hours and got childcare or household help for anything over 40 hours/wk.  If both people work 40 hours/wk, then you get 40 hours of childcare.  If one works 40 and the other works 20, then you should get 20 hours of childcare. If one person works 60, and the other works 0, then you still should get 20 hours of childcare or additional help.  In the OP’s case, they need another 20 hours/wk of childcare or other help.    
If you choose not to get help, that’s fine, but then don’t blame your spouse who is working fewer hours.  Just recognize that they are also working hard and you have made this decision together.  [/quote]

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