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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Adoption is usually a permanent solution to what is often a temporary problem. I think many birth mothers say they aren't in a position to parent because of their current situation. I would like to see statistics as to how many birth mothers still feel that way 10 or 20 years later, when their life situation may be vastly different (and often better) than it was when they first chose adoption.[/quote]

That may be true (although I certainly do not think it applies in all cases) but does that mean that you think that kids should be in foster care for that long while birth mom gets her act together.  Or are you saying that society owes it to her to support her and her child (and however other many children she has) for that 10 to 20 year period.  [b]Either position is unreasonable.[/b]  [/quote]

Why is it unreasonable?

Society throws a lot more money at other things besides support systems for (often) young people who have become parents prematurely.

Reading between the lines, you seem to assume that most birth parents "need to get their act together," are popping out children left and right, and are a burden to society.  Stereotype much?  Why don't you add their race and economic status while you are at it.  Of course you think they need a savior to come and take their children from them.  It's written all over your response.

Every situation is different and every child born will be in a different situation.  A young couple who are having a child but have economic problems can be helped with housing, food, counseling and employment assistance. Unfortunately what they are most often "helped" with is a referral to an adoption agency and encouragement that relinquishing their child is the most loving and selfless thing to do.

Until the loss eventually catches up with them psychologically and they perhaps develop other problems, which your society may very well have to fund anyway - such as psychological care, drug/alcohol treatment, a need for housing, food, etc.  That's why longitudinal studies need to be done on the long-term effects on birth parents.

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