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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pets have become the new children and fill a gap for many people. I've seen more prescription drug advertisements for pets then ever this year. Clearly people are caring for them and willing to spend money on them like they are children. But unlike children you don't have to worry about daycare or college tuition. [/quote]

Or heirs or anyone being at your bedside while you die of cancer or old age. Dream big.[/quote]

This may surprise some people but I want to enjoy my life however long that should be.  I want to enjoy those preceding decades to death in my own way.  That for me is dreaming big. At my bedside in old age when I am dying I am going to assume I will be so out of it with drugs that I won't know where I am.  Hopefully some friends will still be around at that age but really I care more that I have a good hospice nurse who will keep the pain away and keep me comfortable.  I am probably likely to be suffering from dementia of some sort if I make it to late 90's.

All of my grandparents died alone.  Yes some family visited in the weeks leading up to 2 of them, SOME family, certainly not all children visited and the other two died quickly and suddenly. No bedside vigils for them.

I certainly don't want to dictate my whole life due to some belief that I control my death, its funny to me that we all see ourselves in a bed, pain free, aware and conscious and enjoying those around us.  I haven't seen that a lot, not in my family and not in my friends family.

If you need to have kids to help fight your fear of death, go for it. As for heirs, I could not care less.  Besides my atoms will go back into the ground and that's what brings me comfort, that I will go back into nature.

I would rather have lots of memories of great friendships and relationships throughout my life and as I leave the world look forward to joining them.  I do not want my in-laws life of having two children and four grandchildren and leaving this world where one son and all four grandchildren don't even speak to them and are estranged.  People throw out these death bed ideals which sound lovely but life doesn't always end up that way.  I look at people with kids and don't want their life.  I am happy so far with the life I have chosen.  I will hopefully leave this world grateful for the life I chose.

So whilst people throw out the old tired lines of growing old alone and dying alone, it isn't such a threat or a negative.  Just be happy with your own choices because on your death bed that is the one certainty, that you will have to live with the choices YOU made.  No one else's choices will matter.[/quote]

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