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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again. My husband is totally at his wits end as well. The husbands are in the mix too. There seems to be a view that there is like chaos here and I’m too high strung or relax and our DHs aren’t involved. Everyone is doing their part. My deep frustration is that everyone has to vaguely move the ball forward. You can’t do literally nothing.

The one thing my DH thinks is that this cousin is generally sort of…limited. Like he as pointed to a few examples of her meltdowns or inability to function in normal ways. So then yes as some have mentioned, I definitely have thought, is this years and years of depression? And if it is, do I hold space for the week of my vacation doing extra dishes and taking into consideration her dietary needs when I cook? Bc she is sick? And that’s how you hold loving space for someone? Or is it like, actually I can’t speculate on your health, you’re making me miserable, stay with your brother if you’re here or stay home 30min away and drive in to the beach. The minute I draw my boundary I think she’s going to blow up. I’m 5% scared of her.[/quote]

[b]So what was your husband doing that he couldn't help you put sunscreen on the kids, get them to the bathroom or give them a snack?[/b][/quote]

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Maybe he was grocery shopping so there would be dinner on the cousin’s night to cook?

Or maybe he was doing the kids laundry which the cousin had dumped her clothes into?

It sounds like everyone else pitches in except the cousin. I don’t understand why some people are so set on defending obnoxious behavior. None of my friends do this—I would not trace with them if they did.

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If he was actually doing those things, OP, who has come back to answer multiple other posts over multiple days, would not be conveniently ignoring the multiple posts asking why her husband has no responsibility for his own kids, but inexplicably her cousin does.  But no.  Radio silence.[/quote]

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