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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wait—you said the cousin “is local to the Cape.” Why isn’t she staying at her own house? I’m confused. [/quote]

OP here. You have nailed part of the tension. She just moves in with us basically. This spring i broached her staying at her place and she was like “why would we do that? We’re here to see each other. Do you want to me to stay away?” And I was manipulated (my view) into backing down. I need to just get mean. But it’s still me drawing a line in the sand that “separates” her from the three amigo besties who grew up together. [/quote]

Got it. 
Honestly, I’d say something now while it’s all fresh and you’re motivated. Just tell her it’s not going to work for her to come to the house anymore. If she presses you, be straight with her: I’m really frustrated with your lack of pitching in with meals and clean-up.

You can do it. No one needs to spend their hard earned vacation time feeling resentment cleaning up after able-bodied adults. [/quote]

+1 - ITA.  I hate conflict, but I would screw up my courage and lay it out there. I [i]might[/i] offer an olive branch along the lines of - "Cousin, if you want to continue coming to the reunion you have to take on the same responsibilities as every other family. If you're not willing to do that, then we can't extend the invitation to you anymore." But your description of her playing dumb and then ducking out of preparing her meal is not promising.[/quote]

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