Reply to Can we have an honest, good faith conversation about fat acceptance and body positivity?

Forum Index » Diet, Nutrition & Weight Loss

Reply to "Can we have an honest, good faith conversation about fat acceptance and body positivity?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
I’m obese.  I hate it.  I was the gorgeous, healthy, skinny woman everyone envied before I was long-term sexually harassed at work and went on medication for depression and anxiety.  I was milested by my father repeatedly in ES so that I may be a bit sensitive to the workplace issue.

Now, I’m afraid to leave the house I don’t want anyone to see how fat I am.  I take lithium and abilify, which cause weight gain.

I’m fine to pay extra for a seat on an airplane, but I’m also a millionaire.

I’d give anything to have a friend to walk with, but obesity is a lonely thing.  My doctor has no advice for me.  Last appointment, he just shrugged when I asked for exercise ideas.  I can’t afford a personal trainer because, while I have money, I also don’t work so I need to save it.  (I’m not on disability.)

I’d give anything to not be shamed.  I feel like the shaming closes me in.  There’s no way out.  My only comfort is that I will die early and be done with this miserable life.

[/quote]

I’m also obese - morbidly - and struggle so much with despair over my body because I was also one very healthy and had a beautiful body until serious illness forced me to be largely sedentary, medication also tanked my metabolism and I started eating very unhealthy while coping with childhood trauma and the adult sexual harassment that triggered all the buried toxins to rise to the surface.

If you can swim somewhere (YMCA?) I highly recommend it - it’s a great overall exercise and zero impact, so really perfect for heavy people. I’m anxious for the pool at my low cost gym to reopen. In the meantime it’s walking in the woods with my dog where I’m less likely to see people and feel their judging gaze, and where the surface is gentler on my joints - sidewalks give me sore feet and shin splints.

One thing that makes me crazy - my doctor sent me for an evaluation at the medical weight management center, and the bariatric surgeon was very bullish on me getting sleeve gastrectomy. My insurance company will happily shell out many thousands for me to go under the knife - but won’t shell out anything for gym membership or personal training. I truly believe that with the help and motivation from a trainer I could make a serious change in my health without surgery, but I can’t afford a trainer on my own. I hesitate to just jump in and try weights and machines and all that without guidance, because I have a number of previous injuries from the serious illness I suffered and I’m afraid to hurt myself in a serious way - I would need the guidance of a professional, like a PT (physical therapist) even to make sure I could work out without harming myself in permanent ways.

I think this is a big issue in our healthcare system, that it will happily pay tens of thousands and risk the costs of very serious surgical complications, but won’t pay a few thousand to give an obese person with health issues an opportunity to get expert guidance in changing their lifestyle and health for the better. It just seems to underscore that true health isn’t really the objective.

[/quote]

I don’t want to derail this thread, but to the both of you posters, I think help may be coming in the form of a pill if you are open to it. Read about semaglutide. I was a part of a study with this medication and it really helped me. I lost a significant amount of weight and it helped me get motivated to exercise because I loss so much weight, I had the energy to exercise.  It’s not a cure. And as soon as the study ended I gained some weight back. But I’m bringing this up in this thread because it finally worked on the physiological brain fv%ck that I felt food was doing to me. Even though this medication doesn’t work on the brain, because I lost so much weight I was able to see myself differently for the first time in 35 years.  I was able to see me not fat. And wow that was a real brain f-+$ck. I was no longer waiting to die fat.

See that’s the thing people that haven’t been fat before don’t realize either. When you are fat, you are invisible. People look past you. You can move in this world like a ghost. That’s how I felt, but when I lost the weight, I couldn’t  do that anymore. People suddenly saw me. I wasn’t invisible anymore. That has pros and cons. So I was happy to gain the weight back, I didn’t like the attention of being smaller.

Some of these posters think being fat is just calories in and calories out, that’s it’s just will power. That’s just a tiny piece of the puzzle. For many who have been fat for most of their lives, it’s a part of them, it’s a part of me. It is a core part of who I am. And you can be afraid of what life will be if that piece of the puzzle isn’t there. When I lost weight, I still had bills to pay, I still had a sucky a$$ job. But for many years, I thought if I just lost the weight it would be all rainbows and roses. But life is still $hit and you still got folks like many on this thread judging you. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics