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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Her health matters to you and is important for your kids. It should not be a conversation about "her wanting to look good for you" (freaking shallow that); but about you and her children loving her and wanting her to stay alive and healthy.

Of course, she knows this, but sometimes we have to hear the difficult words coming from an unselfish place of love and concern. Unfortunately, that is not where you are coming from, so I don't expect you'll be able to fool her and the conversation will go poorly.

Maybe take up hiking as a family.[/quote]

This is basically the approach I took with my DH. He had put on 120+ lbs.since we got married 14 years ago. I gained about 20 after two pregnancies. go

We went on a fateful hike last summer. Fateful because he was so winded I though he was going to have a heart attack. I told him that he was slowmo committing suicide and that If he didn't get serious about his health I would need to prepare to be a widow. I changed my own eating habits (fewer carbs) and started working out in earnest (adding weights) so I wouldn't be a hypocrite and lost @ 15 lbs. He has started changing his diet and.working out. With the pandemic and WAH, he is working out daily and has lost @32 lbs. With his weight loss and his motivation I'm finding him much more attractive and were having sex more often. REally, it's the fall t that he cares enough to do this.for me and the kids and he's making the effort that I find most attractive.[/quote]

Interesting story.  I see  this a lot at Disney.  There are large swaths of morbidly obese parents at Disney that have a difficult time walking the park.  They have young children.  It is a health emergency waiting to happen.[/quote]

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