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There are a few rude comments on this thread about people who chose to have one child. I'm not one of those people, so not being defensive, but simply calling someone else out for being an ass. You are right that people have can post anything they want on a discussion forum, just as I can call them out for their weird hang-ups. Sorry, but there is no sane reason for harping on families who chose to have one child. There could be medical, financial, or just "one and done" reasoning. It's no one else's business and acting like it is, or acting like it's appropriate to criticize them for it, is crazy. [b]It's just very clear that people who can't accept that some people don't want they want is their hang up[/b]. It's inappropriate, and yes, weird.[/quote]

Oh come on already! You're the one being an ass. People who don't have kids don't get bent out of shape when asked why they don't want them. My brother simply says he's happy pursuing his life goals and doesn't have time for or interest in kids. I have college friends who've made the same choice.  Do I think they're missing out on a rewarding part of life? Yes. Does it follow that I "can't accept" their  choice? No. Are they defensive and irritable if I ask if they ever regret not having kids? No, just as I'm not when they ask how I can possibly be happy living in a cul de sac in suburbia. If you're content with your life choices, you aren't defensive when discussing them.

Apparently it's OK to ask why people don't have kids. And it's acceptable to ask why people do have kids. It's also acceptable to ask why someone has an unusually large number of kids; people ask that question all the time at my office and my co-worker (who has five boys) doesn't fly off the handle about people judging him.  But apparently, it's not acceptable to ask why someone chooses to have only one kid. Why should that question be treated as a taboo or provoke such a furious response and a bunch of juvenile name calling? It's silly. The question is not an attack on anyone's lifestyle or an inability to accept their choices. Seems to me the only reason you get unprovoked hostility in response to that question is because people feel defensive about it. Now why might that be?[/quote]

Look, it's obvious when the motivation is interest, or just being an ass.  There's nothing wrong with asking, "Why did you decide to have the number of children you did?" or "Why only one child?"  It's another thing altogether to ask, essentially, "How can you do that to your only child?"  The former is legitimate.  The latter is just being a provocative asshole.[/quote]

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