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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's one that REALLY goes against the grain:  I believe it's super important to actually raise your own kids when they are infants and under about four years old.  Not a nanny, babysitter, daycare or full-day pre-school.  Mom or Dad at home taking care of and imparting values to their own kids.  REALLY important.[/quote]

Interesting, I feel the exact opposite which I think goes against the grain. I think middle and high schoolers need a present at home parent (from school dismissal time) much more than young kids/elementary school kids. That doesn’t mean they cannot have the increasing independence and responsibility that they need. It does mean no one is raiding your liquor cabinet or losing their virginity on your couch. 
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I can see this being a valid opinion. [/quote]

I second this opinion.

This is exactly why I didn't work when my kids were young, and when I did choose a job that allowed me to be done by the time they got out of school once they hit middle school.  Guess what, kids need parents.  from 0-college

~Mom to 21yo and 18yo[/quote]

I feel bad for moms who stay home with young kids and think they are making a difference or that if really matters.  The kid won’t even remember the time.  It’s really more for the mom, which is fine.  The problem is that the time at home is actually hurting the mom in terms of equality at home and retirement savings among many other things.  [/quote]

Of course they remember it.  They won’t have a verbal memory that they can relate back to you, but at its most fundamental level, a memory isn’t a story you tell, it’s a physical neurological change.  And at no time are those physical neurological changes happening faster than the 0-5 set.  That’s why if you adopt a six month old from an abuse or neglect situation, it will probably be fine, but if you adopt a four year old, they may have trouble forming relationships for the rest of their lives.  
I don’t think that you can say that woh vs Sah is better.  It depends on a lot of factors, but don’t pretend that those early years don’t have a huge impact on who a kid will become.  [/quote]

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