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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can't go gluten free for a week?  That is a problem![/quote]
Give me a break.
Anyone can go gluten free for a week ,but to spring it on someone who does not usually eat that way, whose kids do not eat that way and tell them that they have t research, learn and  have to be extra diligent about being gluten free  -- it's too much. I would not want to spend my vacation having to change my entire diet, having to change my kids diet. Being on vacation means doing what is easy. 
The in-laws are being inconsiderate to take both kitchens.[/quote]

They discussed it weeks and weeks in advance. About 20 minutes of Googling and thinking about what your kids like to eat can result in a 5-day, gluten-free menu plan. For real.[/quote]
Who cares if they did it weeks in advance. If I planned on doing something a certain way on my vacation and now I have to do extra planning and different grocery shopping, that is an inconvienence. Part of vacationing for me is NOT having to plan meals. if there was only one kitchen, I would understand, but these folks are taking up BOTH kitchens, [b]that is not fair[/b].[/quote]

You know what's not fair?  When your toddler is diagnosed with a serious illness when you have a newborn at home.  Having to take a family trip (lets be honest, it ain't a vacation for them either) with family who don't get it under those circumstances isn't "fair" to them either.

If this were me, I would be bending over backwards to do whatever I could for my SIL and their family -- and I have.  I hosted a christmas dinner for 25 people on <1 week notice, when I had a 6mo, because my SIL had just been put on bedrest for her 2nd pregnancy and they could no longer have it at their house.  Was it a stressful "inconvenience"?  Absolutely.  Did I do it without complaint?  Yes, because THAT'S WHAT DECENT PEOPLE DO.[/quote]
1) NO shit, it's terrible when you have a kid with a chronic issue, no one said it was not

2) this is not about you and your humblebrag about christmas dinner that you evidently agreed to host (NOT ASKED, BUT VOLUNTEERED) so that you would have martyrdom bragging rights after

3) Decent people can still be inconvienenced unnecessarily. And people are making concessions for the child, but to decide that on a voluntary vacation, you are going to unnecessarily take over ALL of the kitchen facilities is inconsiderate and unfair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

3) When I spend my time, money, and energy to plan and go on vacation I should not have to make changes that are not necessary. Necessary ones I can get with, but just because...take a seat( I'm talking to you pp, not the parents)[/quote]

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