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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here is how I look at my situation:

My wife stays at home -- we've got three young kids (the oldest just started school).  And man, it is GREAT, and I'm thankful she's willing to do it.  I couldn't.  It is constant attention to schedules and activities and the hearts and minds of the little ones.  She cooks healthy food, keeps the house reasonably clean, does the laundry, pays the bills, and keeps up the social connections.

I'm thankful that the raising of the kids is not [b]in the hands of some minimum wage preschool workers or uneducated nanny.[/b]  I'm thankful she is constantly [b]teaching the kids about the world, about morals[/b], about important concepts that will make them more successful and happy teens and adults.  I'm thankful that because she does all she does during the day, we have time to connect as a couple when I'm home from work.  We have a great marriage and a peaceful, happy, intellectual family.  When I hear and read about the hustle of two working parents, it sounds soul crushing.  Why would any resent that?

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Ahhh ... the irony.
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How is that ironic?  Do you think it is immoral that I'd rather have my children spend their formative years being cared for by someone who loves them deeply, is extremely well educated and intelligent, and thoughtful?  If you need two working parents to get by, then so be it.  But if you think that your children get care as good from their preschool or the nanny you found from some website or listserv, that either speaks to your delusion or the lack of better options at home.

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Immoral? Nah, just elitist and myopic. It's not about money – I guarantee I could buy and sell you.  It is the idea that someone who is not been afforded the same educational and life opportunities as you and your wife - and gasp! May be a different race – is somehow ill-equipped to teach morals and worldly behavior. Unless the worldview you want to promote is "don't let those poor brown hands touch my kid!"[/quote]

Couldn't have said it better. Dude's perfect example of an idiot. While we're at it , plenty of nannies at least in this area have at least a GED, not exactly what is call uneducated , but if it makes you feel better ..........[/quote]

A GED??  If you think getting a GED makes someone educated, YOU are the idiot.  Jesus.  Low standards might explain what's going on in this thread....[/quote]

I think what's missing here is that education isn't necessary to care for very young children.  It just isn't.  Babies and toddlers need consistency, a calm and structured environment, and kindness.  I agree with the others who say you don't have to love a child like a parent to provide that.  (And here comes supposed DH pp with "if YOU don't think YOU can take care of YOUR kid better than anyone ..." - ha!)

Like others, I believe that two working parents with reasonable hours who share kid and household responsibilities equal is the healthiest environment for kids.  This isn't possible for everyone, which I get, but that's my ideal and it's working out excellently for my family.  And my boys don't see Daddy working while Mommy makes his martini.[/quote]

I agree completely with the first part of your post, that education level does not necessarily correlate with quality of child care, though I would think that [i]all else equal[/i], anyone would prefer more education to less in their childcare worker.  At least I'd hope people would!  I don't agree with the dig at SAHMs in the second paragraph, and I think it shows the bias or insecurity that underlies your position.   [/quote]

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