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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Look, I'm sure kids are appreciative of having a parent dedicated to the home and their needs.  But my kids are proud of having a mom who is accomplished outside of the home and are happy to have a nice home jointly run by mom and dad.  Whatever works for your family!  [/quote]

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I hear kids at preschool all of the time asking their nannies or caregivers "why can't mommy pick me up?" or "why does mommy have to work?" or the worst, when another child asked me "why don't I have a mom on the field trip?" Kids notice these things. Whether is affects them long term or not, we won't really ever know. [/quote]

and older kids say "why don't you work" "what do you do all day" "why are you so lazy" "your not using your education" "how hard is it to make a healthy dinner" "ugh Larla's mom is on the field trip today AGAIN" "Hey, Larla, mommy's at school today, maybe she will sit with you at lunch" "Hey Larla, glad your mom did your science project for you looks great"

kids say all kinds of stupid things.[/quote]

It's when adults like you say them that you seem so pathetic.

My husband and I were both raised by SAHP and have nothing but the utmost respect for who and what they are and how they have contributed to our lives.

Seeing my mom raise 3 kids and volunteer the last word I ever thought was "lazy".[/quote]

You have preschoolers, so you have no experience with teens. This is what they say.[/quote]

No- my kids are all in school, ages 11-6. And no- I don't have teens, but I WAS a teen and never had those feelings towards my mom. Nor did my husband, which is why we chose the SAHP model.

If YOUR teens have that attitude about SAHP perhaps they are getting it from you.[/quote]

My teens don't say those things because I work. I am talking about my neighbors teens, stuff written on DCUM... the ex-nurse whose son said she did not make it to her full potential, etc.

You are delusional if you don't think kids (preschool and teens) don't say shitty things to  and about their parents.

I did not say I agree with the shitty things but the ridiculousness you are saying about preschoolers is just that ridiculous. Kids say all kind of crazy shit... you take that to heart. You are insecure.[/quote]

I never said kids don't say shitty things. And I wasn't the PP who wrote those things- my kids weren't in daycare so I didn't hear children say those things.

However- if you are insinuating that your children don't say things to you or make judgments about your presence (or lack of) I simply don't believe you. Working isn't a magic bullet to protect you from angsty teenagers.[/quote]

Yes, kids say stuff to working moms ... but they say them to SAHM too. So what? You are going to change your life and teach your children you change because somebody judges you?

Since my H worked 2nd shift and I worked during the day...  I guess they might say why are all moms at the park and my mom isn't... so what? Why do all the kids have moms at the park and I have a dad... so what... my H is going to refuse to take him to the park because my son notices moms are at the park not dads.

My point is ... who cares what kids say... kids say stuff no matter the situation. If I don't work my kid will say "you didn't use your college degree" ... If i do work they say "i am not around" so what?

Shoot one mom's kid said "your only a nurse".... okay so she now needs to go to med school... no.

You can't change your life every time you child make a sideways remark.

The poor little bunnies will be fine either way... working mom... SAHM... park time workring mom... SAHD... military deployments... dads that work so much they never see their kids.......  it's all going to work out. [/quote]

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