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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What's really bothering me about a lot of the anti-redshirting parents is that there reasons for being against redshirting have nothing to do with how it harms the redshirted child, but rather how it harms THEIR child. My son has an August birthday, and I sent him on time. However, my reasons for not redshirting him had nothing to do with other students, but everything to do with him. I know that if I had redshirted him, he would be crazy bored. He's appropriately challenged, but is still doing well. Also, I felt that I have given him a head start in life. He'll graduate high school at 17, and he'll be able to take a gap year before college without having to worry about so old(almost 20) when he starts college. If he doesn't want to go college, he'll still have more time to decide what he wants to do with his life. If I thought that redshirting him would have benefited him somehow, I would have done it. As parents, it's our job to do what's best for our child, not other people's children. If you're against redshirting because you think it affects the redshirted child, then I'm all ears, but many of these parents made it clear that they felt redshirting would negatively affect their child, and didn't say anything about how it would negatively affect the redshirted child. If you don't think redshirting has any negative affect on the redshirted child, then it is selfish for you to be against it. If you feel like other parents redshirting puts your child at a disadvantage, you also have the option of redshirting, and if you want to follow the guidelines, you can homeschool them so they won't be around the older kids. To sum it up, if you're against redshirting, you have to think of ways in which it negatively affects the redshirted child, and if you don't think redshirting has any negative affects on the redshirted child, you have no reason to be against it. [/quote]

Why doesn't the rest of society matter? A lot of how I parent and teach my children how to act relates to others. They sit at the table in restaurants, do not get up and run around, and talk quietly, give up seats on public transportation to seniors, play by the rules in sports, etc. There is a reason for rules--it is so that the institutions work for everyone involved--not so that people can just focus on themselves and bend the rules to accommodate their own desires free of consequence or judgment from those who are playing by the rules. I don't teach my kids that they deserve special accommodations, but rather that they play fair and achieve within the framework that is provided. I can think it's lame that other people don't do that or teach their kids to do so.  [/quote]

Starting school at 4 or barely 5 can result in long term harm to some children.  Having your kids sit calmly in a restaurant isn't harming them.

My sense is the anti-redshirting crowd are the lucky ones that have never dealt with the reality that school is harming their child ... which is great except in the their categorical denial that it's even possible and that the child's parents might be the best judge.
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