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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Having read OP's sanctimonious passive aggressive update, I'm now on Team Sister, though I wasn't before. Holy cow. [/quote]

So she isn't allowed to be bitter?  They are a close family, she is close to her niece and nephew.  She is disappointed her sister picks sport for her kids over her wedding.  She is allowed to be.  She isn't disowning her, she isn't making the nephew feel guilty.  She is venting on an anonymous forum.

My aunt was the baby in the family and didn't get married until she was 45yrs old.  She was always the cool aunt.  Purchased gifts for all the kids on holidays and birthdays, came to all the events and was so much fun to be around.  I could not imagine when it was time for her bridal shower and wedding that some people would have other commitments so minimal like this and bail out.  My 15yr old plays on exclusive sports team and high school.  There is no way she would miss the wedding but if she even gave it a thought, I would remind her of all the times Aunt Michele was there for her and explain that it sucks to miss games from time to time but family, especially close family that has been there for you, must be treated with the same love and kindness.  I am proud that she was completely okay missing a weekend tournament and we have so many good memories, videos and pictures of that whole weekend.  [b]And it didn't ruin her "huge career" in sports.  Still starting on both teams. [/quote][/b]

Never does have long-term impact for the ones with real talent.  Particularly by high school, if you're so good they can't bear to be without you on the field, court, whatever (which is usually the case for the ones who play in college), missing something for a family obligation won't cost you.  And who knows, if the coach has any sense, he'll be impressed by an athlete who has the character to say, my family is more important than one game.  [/quote]

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