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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, please remember that bitterness, envy and worry, all shorten your life in much the same way as cigarette smoking.  Don't listen to the negativity.  I had my first at 38, 2nd at 40 and 3rd at 42.  Now at 51 years people think I am in my early 40's (actually had a 20 something think I was 38).  I had no pregnancy problems, nursed all three, all three are healthy, happy, thriving young children.  Yes my last one was a bit more difficult with the sleep deprivation and I do have moments of worry that I will not be around for grandchildren but they keep me young, active and healthy for now and I wouldn't change a thing.  In hindsight, if I had-had the choice, I would have preferred all by age 38 but the cards were not dealt that way for me.   Also, I think older parents make better parents because we are completely done with "sowing our wild seeds" and "self absorbed all about me years".  So honey it is all about what you and your husband want and NO ONE else matters.  If you are healthy and in a healthy supportive marriage GO FOR IT, you will not regret it.[/quote]

Your oldest is 9, so you've not yet hit the teen years. While I doubt you are 51 and look 38, this certainly won't be true once the teen years are upon you.

And older parents are no more qualified than those who parent in their 20's or 30's. It does not always give you an advantage of patience, money or anything else. If anything, I have found that older parents regret having children more because they lived the child-free life longer and find the transition difficult or not as wonderful as they thought it would be. [/quote]

I'm 48 with a 10 and 6 yo - both one-shot deals conceived "naturally."

We live comfortably in a nice home on two acres.  I couldn't have lived this life 20 years ago.  We both teach and are home with our kids over the summer. My husband will retire in 5 years and embark on another career.  I'll continue to teach so that my summers are spent with the kids.

I hardly think my kids are cramping my style. In fact, they're FUCKING FABULOUS!  And I love all the time I can spend with them.  We can pay a nanny just to watch them in the morning (b/c we're at work before 7), and she's available to step in over the summer if we're busy.

I love the know it alls who claim that older parents have regrets.

lol!  no regrets, baby!  I'm home to meet them at the bus and we're together all summer long.

What's not to love about having a good nest egg, no childcare issues, and all the time in the world to spend with my little ones?  
 
btw - I work in an alternative setting with some challenging teens.  I hardly think the teen years with my kids will do me in after dealing with CPS on a weekly basis.

And I have gray hair!  I'm old!

Flame away, gals![/quote]

Rock on. I think your life sounds great. Enjoy your family![/quote]

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