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[quote=Anonymous]First, OP, I like your style.  Your reply to your ex above is gold.

Second, your ex needs to talk to an OB.  Cryptic pregnancies are not THAT rare.  Nor are birth control failures.  If she was on the pill she likely had very little periods at all or she might have taken a pill that kept her from menstruating entirely.  The cryptic pregnancy makes a LOT more sense in this context.

So, yes, she could have been on the pill all along and might have taken an antibiotic 9 months ago for 10 days not realizing that it made the pill less effective, or lots of other similar reasons.  When I was on the pill I didn’t have periods at all, just occasional spotting.  So there’s how she didn’t have symptoms.  The pill can also cause sore boobs and other pregnancy symptoms.

All it would take is a tilted uterus and/or an anterior placenta to prevent her feeling the fetus move.  And if your son didn’t notice dramatic changes in her body, how would you expect her to?  Honestly some of us are quite oblivious about our bodies; I feel very disconnected from mine regularly and it’s only when I look at unexpected photos that I see changes.  If he couldn’t see a giant belly, surely she didn’t either.

Also, my son was 5.5 pounds at 34 weeks.  So a 6 pound baby may well have still been premature.

I think it’s great that you empathize with your son who has been clobbered in the head with a 2x4.  Now, if he could just get his head out of his ass to realize that the trauma and shock are 1000x greater for his GF.  There was a BaBy growing inside her that just came OUT of her body.  Thats effin freaky when you’ve only had less than a week to absorb the reality of the pregnancy’s existence.  It’s literally the stuff of nightmares.  And on top of this tsunami of physical and hormonal changes, her BF isn’t handling it well.  I really feel for her.

Again, I commend you for supporting your son but not conflating “support” with abandonment of the gf and child.  He can do what he chooses, but you can also have an independent relationship with Kevin and his mother and be supportive and kind to them while also being a good mom to your son.  Welcoming Kevin with love doesn’t mean you are not loving your son.  [/quote]

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