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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have not read the whole thread, I suspect I would not be surprised.

The only polite things to say when someone tells you where they got in are

Congratulations!
They will be very lucky to have you!
What a wonderful choice (insert some random thing you know about the school)
What do you plan to study there?

Things that are not OK:

Eww who wants to go there

You only got in because you are (rich, poor, race, religion, legacy, non-academic talent)

Oh your kid got in for English?  My kid was deferred for Engineering there, which js clearly much harder.

I’ve heard they love a sob story there.  You probably got in because (insert someone’s trauma)

Their admissions are so hard to predict.

I am sure if my kid went to (private or public, whichever the kid didn’t go to) they would have gotten in[/quote]

Exactly. The fact that this is not the primary topic being discussed here is unbelievable. The fact that one kid said this to another kid is horrifying. It shows zero class. You can think what you want. You can discuss it with others. But you just say congratulations and move on. To make a comment like that is incredibly low class and rude.[/quote]

I can see both sides, but also think:

- people get upset when things are said behind their back. This is a true statement (didn't your parents go there?) and the implication is also true (that helped you get in) AND the kid who got in also knows the truth of the statement.

So is the thought wrong (his legacy status helped him get in) or is it the fact that it was said to the applicant that is objectionable to you? It is also dependent how the applicant/applicant's family let others know the parents went there. If the parents were wearing the school shirt, dropped it in conversation, etc. then this seems like a completely appropriate response to be said to the applicant since it was flaunted to others. I know where lots of parents went because they continually drop it in conversations and have since about 8th grade. In that case, do you still object to a kid making this comment? [/quote]

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