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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All of you sound like a bunch of middle schoolers.  I thought I was in the teen forum and couldn’t believe what I was reading and just noticed I was in the elementary forum.  I must have clicked here by mistake.

Ignore the mom and stop caring what anyone thinks. Soon enough, you won’t even know the parents of your kids friends.  - mom of teens [/quote]

^^^^

We've just found the mom that does this stuff on purpose.[/quote]

You are bananas.  OP did nothing at all wrong and the other mom sounds unhinged.  I cannot imagine caring about this or confronting another parent about not being invited to something.  That is psycho [/quote]

Psycho is not explaining to your kids social norms. Since you can't control others behavior, stop putting yourself in the position to get blow back. It's really very simple. Shut your mouth, and nothing will happen. You can't control others so control your own behavior, right?[/quote]

Right.  And it’s never ok to invite yourself or guilt/shame someone into inviting you to something, no matter what you overhear. Go make your own plans and control your emotions [/quote]

If you felt shamed, don’t keep making the same mistake. Manage the crap coming out of your mouth first. Why are you resisting the obvious solution? Keep your social plans to yourself because you can’t control others.[/quote]

“I” wasn’t shamed. You are spouting nonsense.  This didn’t happen to me.  But clearly that was the intent of the parent OP was talking about that confronted her over this situation [/quote]

So, as you know, when you can't control other people, you have to control your own behavior. In this case, stop talking in front of others about your parties. That's all that is needed. Not trying to scold strangers about how they should or should not react to the initial rudeness.[/quote]

Ok. And OP didn’t talk about.  Neither did her kid.  So move on[/quote]

Instead of lashing out at this other mom, blame the kids who talked. There are reasons these social norms exist.[/quote]

Child who mentioned it is 6 and overheard parents talking about it. [/quote]

Maybe there is a solution? Careful what you say around your kids.[/quote]

Not the solution nor the problem.  Not getting invited to things is part of life.  This was a small gathering. While generally people (should) try to avoid directly mentioning something to you they may not know if are invited to, there are no top secret social events.  You may overhear others talking, you may see a picture, someone may inadvertently or indirectly allude or mention something- it happens and is generally not some intentional vendetta to hurt you. This isn’t an excuse to go ballistic and pester people for leaving you out and insisting you be invited next time. THAT is what you need to teach your kids. [/quote]

“I refuse to change my behavior so you better change yours!” Good luck with that![/quote]

It’s not “my behavior” it’s reality.  You won’t be invited to everything and you may sometimes know of things you weren’t invited to attend.  You need to learn to manage your feelings. No one is entitled to go to all the things [/quote]

Ok. And you can fully expect some parents who also doesn’t subscribe to social norms, like you, might have something to say about it.[b] You were warned[/b].[/quote]

You are absolutely absurd. Just FYI.

NP[/quote]

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