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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why does every DH have to be the main parent. You're the main parent, OP. Just do the parenting and let him do the 1billion other things that also have to get done to run a family.[/quote]

I know people are bristling at this.  But honestly, as a strategy it worked really well in my family.  I did nothing but kid stuff and my spouse did everything else except that spouse did childcare drop off and pick up because my commute was longer.  We had very little conflict because we each did our part to make the family work.  And we were both pretty happy about it.  I can't remember the last time I did yard work (besides my garden), took the car for service or an oil change, found a plumber, washed a car, cleaned my house and whatever other billion things it takes to keep a house running successfully.  Even though my kids are grown, I still don't do these things.  My spouse wasn't a bad parent, but wasn't a good caretaker until they got a lot older.  The difference between me and OP is that I could count on my spouse in emergencies.  [/quote]

How did your kids feel about that? I'm glad your situation worked out for you, but I can't imagine having only one parent doing the parenting.[/quote]

It worked out well. We lived (and still do) in a conflict free home where everyone loved each other and everyone did their part to make our lives work. The kids knew who to ask for whatever they wanted/needed.

Also just because I took care of school, medical, and all of that stuff doesn’t mean my both didn’t do the fun stuff with the kids. We’re both pretty fun parents and neither was unreasonable stressed because we weee doing what we were good at. A win all around d. [/quote]

I’m sure it was a win for your DH who got more leisure time daily than you … [/quote]

PP listed a bunch of other things her DH did. When do you think that got done? During the work day?[/quote]

Doing yard work is a once a week thing. Paying bills is monthly. Childcare is around the clock every day. I guess I can see a scenario where the dad does everything except childcare (like cooks, cleans, laundry) and that is an even split of labor. But not sure that is the case. And it also would be bizarre if a parent literally could not be counted on to do any childcare. You can’t take the kid to the dentist one time? Do the camp forms? Do bedtime? [/quote]

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