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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, this just shows how little how you or the men in your life care about their kids.

"What Happens if a Mother Refuses Access?
If there’s a court order granting visitation and the mother refuses to comply, she could face legal consequences. The father can go back to court and file a motion to enforce visitation. If she continues to block access, she could be found in contempt of court, which might lead to fines or other penalties. In some cases, a judge could even modify custody arrangements in favor of the father."

So instead of whining and complaining about their ex on the internet, they could have been doing the work and getting even more custody. Oh wait, it's working exactly as planned because these men didn't even want custody in the first place. [/quote]

She "can" face legal consequences but likely she won't. Most often the result of a woman ignoring a court order is, you drag her back to court, and the judge issues another court order which she ignores. The judge is not going to award the father custody unless it's an extreme and provable case of the mom being unfit. Very rare.

And when push comes to shove, most ex-husbands are very hesitant to have their ex-wives thrown in jail, because that will traumatize his kids no matter how much his XW deserved it.[/quote]

None of this happened to you, because this is a crazy scenario. Stop talking mess and start talking facts, if you even have any. You sound paranoid and delusional, not to mention misogynist af.[/quote]

I am not the PP but this is actually not a crazy scenario - I know someone living it right now. The mom is actively keeping the child from the dad. She is making false allegations against him, she pulled the child out of summer camp two weeks early, and has gone so far as to take the kid to another state for a month. [b]Is that kidnapping? Yeah.[/b] Do you know how quickly a court does something about that? Not very. [b]And frankly, the dad doesn't want to charge her[/b] with it because he cares enough to know that it's not good for their kid if one parent is convicted of a crime (although the mom doesn't feel this way so she's trying to press charges for things she has already said he didn't do). The legal system isn't quick, and when you're talking about an 8-year old, there's not a lot the kid can do to try to reach the dad either. His lawyers have advised him not to try to go get the kid because he needs to let the system work its way through things. I'd like to go kidnap the child myself and deliver her to her dad but obviously I wouldn't do that. You want more facts?[/quote]
So he recognizes the danger, keeps his child in danger, and doesnt bother going to court to fight for his 8 year old? Yikes. Great parent. [/quote]

Mom is at fault.  Courts do nothing.  Be real.  What can he do?[/quote]

News flash.  It's not kidnaping if a parent takes their own child.  No parent is going to jail for the crime of kidnapping if they take their kid to another state for a few weeks vacation and return.  It is definitely a custody order violation, and would easily result in a change of custody if Dad took it to court.

The lawyers advice for the dad to work through the court is wise. Good custodial parents seek to avoid actually physical confrontation over the bodies of their kids.

I get really tired of whiny men who say they can't get custody.  They can.  They actually usually have an advantage if things go to court.  (See published research on this by GW).  The truth is they don't want to, and often it's a cover that enables their own failings.  My ex could easily have had 50/50 custody if he filed in court for it.  But, he would have risked me speaking in open court about his mental illness, his serial cheating, the times he left the kids alone, was drinking heavily while they were with him, etc.  He preferred to look like the good dad who was screwed by his wife.  I kept my mouth shut and didn't speak about all his craziness to any of our mutual friends (although all mine knew and my family as well.)[/quote]

Courts do nothing.  Be real.  They don’t care if mom denies dad contact. [/quote]

Well, they definitely don't do anything if you don't use them. [/quote]

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