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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean, I wouldn’t create a family schism over this, but banning elementary school kids from a wedding is a pretty cold and exclusionary move. I would be annoyed and wouldn’t really make any effort to attend if my 12 year old wasn’t invited. I certainly would not pay for an overnight sitter for him on top of any other costs. [/quote]

It's not cold, it's a personal choice that was not made to offend you. I couldn't pay the per person plate cost for all the kids that would have been at my reception. It blew up the cost of my wedding that was many decades ago. If people elected not to come because of it, I was fine. I did everything I could to save $ on the wedding my husbands family insisted we have but didn't help paying for. We were buying a house and we were scrimping and saving for that. [/quote]

Plus, for a 12+ yo, who needs a baby sitter?  Do you not have friends who live near you?  Your kid's friends?  My 12 yo would much rather (99% of the time) be with their friends for a 1-2 day sleepover than dragged to an adult event.  By time your kid is 12, you really should have friends and they should have friends, and if you reciprocate, you don't have to "pay babysitters" even for a night away.

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This is fine if you don't have to travel.  For recent family weddings all of them have been out of the home state where all family live (except us) or a destination wedding.  Also, all of the weddings the parents 100% of the costs.

My neighbor/friends would be fine watching my kid for a night but I am meant to fly across the country or half way across and fly back in 12 -24 hours and attend a wedding/rehearsal/etc?  Not worth it.  I am fine doing this for a wedding that is max 90 minutes away though.

Also, I tried this and the family canceled last minute, so it isn't always set in stone.  [/quote]

Guess I (and my kids) had fun reliable friends.  I often took my friends kids for an evening if both parents had to travel, or for a day or two so they could get a weekend away no kids.  They did the same for me.  I had 4-6 very good options for each of my kids.

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