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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are their decisions final? You could gently ask them why they don't want kids--all of my childfree friends are happy to explain if asked politely. If they cite financial reasons, you could offer to help out. If they cite career or time constraints, you could offer free babysitting or even being a free full-time nanny. If you live too far away, you could offer to move closer to provide the free babysitting. If it's space in their homes they're worried about, you could offer to help them find and afford a larger place. You can promise to take care of they kids while they go on 1-2 childfree vacations a year. Obviously, don't do any of this without your children's approval.

I know it seems excessive, but my parents/in-laws offered most of the above to us. We did not take them up on everything, of course.[/quote]

People who don't want kids really don't want kids. Stop trying to get them to change their minds![/quote]

People who have kids tend to adore them and cannot understand others not wanting to experience the joy, even if it comes with challenges.  I also think most parents correctly believe that non-parents would have a different feeling if they just had that first kid.

Having said all that, just leave the non-parents alone.  People should want kids before having them. [/quote]

I have kids and can absolutely understand that others don’t want them and would never think they should be convinced otherwise.

Some PPs on this thread are crazy like JD Vance, thinking people without kids are somehow less than.[/quote]

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