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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP maybe you’ve failed to make parenthood look desirable. Right now, the pervasive cultural message is that parenting is not worth it. It’s portrayed as purely an endless slog with few rewards, with kids being expensive but providing nothing in return. This is compounded by messaging that it’s unethical to even have children due to environmental and political concerns.

Were your kids constantly exposed to this kind of messaging growing up? Did you seem happy to be a parent? Or did they just see sacrifice? Kids will notice if their parents are not enjoying parenting or if they are making disproportionate sacrifices for their kids. This understandably turns lots off parenting. In previous generations kids saw all this but opting out of kids wasn’t a social possibility. Of you want your kids to want kids, you need to demonstrate the value of parenting.[/quote]

oh please. previous generations had kids because, um, there was not effective birth control and women couldn’t say no.

you know who is opting out? women. because they see that parenting falls heaviest on women.

if you want to change this then look to the MEN. [/quote]

I’m the pp you’re responding to, and [b]I’m a gender critical feminist[/b], so I couldn’t agree more with you. My response was more about women who would have wanted children anyway even with the knowledge of the gross inequality of the burdens of bearing and raising kids. Truly, you’re preaching to the converted.

But if you see no joy in parenting from your parents, I think it’s pretty rational to see parenting is no fun. [/quote]

Yikes. :shock: [/quote]

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