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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone contributes to society, what's the difference between raising your children, caring for your parents and managing your household vs doing it for money as an employee?[/quote]

For me it’s because once kids were in school there was not much “raising kids/caring for parents/managing household “ to do. [/quote]

I’m always surprised when people say this.  I don’t think that my day to day changed that much when my youngest went to school.  I just didn’t have my little buddy with me anymore.

I guess I don’t go to the zoo as much, but it’s not like I was spending hours a day playing CandyLand with a four year old before he went to school.  [/quote]
You don't think your day to day changed when you arent responsible for a human for most of the day? That's a huge difference to me![/quote]

I’m still ultimately responsible for all of my kids every day.  
But yeah, it isn’t that different.  
Now I go go book club on Thursday mornings on my own.  I don’t have to bring stickers.  
When I fold laundry, I listen to an audiobook instead of his little stories, and I have to match the socks myself.  
I usually make dinner on my own without my little helper.  (There’s too much going on after school to cook then.).

I mostly kind of miss him.  [/quote]

Sounds like you don’t do much of anything. [/quote]

She cooks and cleans and takes care of her children after school. That’s plenty. [/quote]

How is that plenty?  Sorry, I don’t care if people don’t want to work…but don’t think you are doing much either.

Just own the fact that you have $$$s and don’t want to work…it’s no different than somebody with a trust fund.[/quote]

Pp here.

I wasn’t claiming to do that much.  On my days off I tidy the house, do a few loads of laundry, make dinner, go to the store, take a walk, and visit with friends.  It isn’t much different than when I had my youngest at home.

I have to work this week, and DH has been out of town.  I wish I was off.  We had beans, rice, and apple slices for dinner.  I’m out of bread and milk for tomorrow because my teenagers ate it all after school. I just bought a bunch of books for the kindle because I didn’t have time to take my daughter to the library for her research project, and I just threw a load in the wash that has just enough clothes to get everyone through tomorrow.

I also still have to log in tonight and sign all of my notes from today.

I know there are women who handle this better than I do, but I don’t need the money, and I don’t want to work full time.

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Some folks were very offended by comments on management skills and that we are all different. At this point this thread is a dumpster fire, so I will just type without worrying about smoothing out my language.  I am a woman with a stressful job. The idea of running out of milk/bread and clean clothes is unfathomable to me. So when evite lady talks about how working moms miss important details, I’m puzzled because you are defending not having a career kind of job and cannot seem to get an actual dinner on the table.  That seems like an important detail to me.[/quote]

Okay.  
If you have never run out of milk, then you are more organized than I am.

I mean, I did work 10 hours yesterday, and I did feed my family and take the kids to scouts and ballet and piano and help with homework.  I’m not a total schlub.

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Did you not think to look in the fridge on Saturday or Sunday, knowing you would have limited bandwidth on Monday? That’s what I mean by organizational skills. What I just said is so completely basic. Like the pre-k of organizational skills.[/quote]

Not really.  I thought I had enough milk to make it through yesterday.  Saturday, we went out to dinner after I got off to say goodbye to DH, and Sunday my teens were in charge of dinner.  My younger kids were at camp.  
We went to 5pm mass after the kids got home and I got off work, then we ate and finished up homework.

I am off today, though.  And I will get caught up.

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