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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]We are currently raising our kids in a very competitive UMC community. There’s some racial diversity but next to no socioeconomic diversity. Top 1 percent ranked public school in the national, starting price for a modest house is 1.5-2n… it’s very much a bubble.[/b] Kids are extremely involved in extracurriculars across the board and it’s a very strong community. In many ways we are happy with it but I also have this nagging feeling maybe it’s not the answer for my family and my kids. I grew up in a small middle class town where everyone made the team in HS and college was expected but community college was okay too. It wasn’t a pressure cooker environment. We were just kids and had a lot of leisure time. I went on to private school in college and experienced the uber wealthy and those from much lower incomes in my social circle as well as a lot of diversity. I think I personally benefitted from it and do well with all kinds of people. We own a second home in a rural area. My kids are 6,8 and 9. I’m considering moving there where it’s a much simpler lifestyle and not so competitive. I would love to hear what people have to say about their own experiences.  [/quote]

Hard NO from me chiming in from a childhood in Scarsdale and Rye. [/quote]

Ugh, same here, childhood in Greenwich…EXCEPT. That background launched me into one of the best secondary schools in the world, and I can’t tell you how important my experience there has been to my life. Despite that school’s incredible racial, national, cultural, and socioeconomic diversity, I’m not confident I would have gotten in (or even thought to apply) without the privileges afforded me by my childhood.

My family now is sadly not in a private school income bracket, and my husband’s family is state-flagship oriented, as opposed to my Ivy-oriented family. There’s a big cultural difference and it’s unsettling to think that my kids won’t be able to relate.[/quote]

Very weird [/quote]

not that weird- actually quite common, especially here in DC in the non-profit world. younger gen x, older millennials grew up in a time of extreme affluence and peace, our single income immigrant parents could afford a really good life and the of us who didnt chase money or pay attention to it thought that similar choices would lead to similar outcomes and that just isn't true any longer.  [/quote]

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