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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I live in a multi-gen household and I have inbuilt childcare. DH and I, also pay for a part-time nanny so that my ILs do not get tired or are tied down.  The fact that my ILs keep an eye on the nanny and other domestic staff (cleaners, part-time cook, yard maintenance) means that I can continue with having a life, my career,  time with my kids and vacations.

My suggestion would be to live in a multi-gen family and you will have help for childcare, eldercare, pet care, plant care, home maintenance, socialization and running of the household and life.

I am sure that is completely unacceptable to the self-centered American millennials.  :lol:  :lol: [/quote]

Lady you are talking about domestic staff. Kindly STFU. You have oodles of funds to have a multi-gen household function for all parties. [/quote]

Ooodles of funds happen because of "Pooled Resources",  you brain-dead crybaby!  And that not only saves everyone money, but we are able to have a good standard of living for a fraction of cost.

My ILs and us are jointly maintaining only one household. They are the alloparents for my kids.  We can easily put money towards outsourcing so that all of us can live a better and comfortable lifestyle because of this lifestyle choice.  
Let me share a secret with you, this is how generational wealth is created.

You guys are unhappy and poor and will remain so! You expect your boomer parents to help you? It will never happen in a million years because all of you have normalized the dysfunction of your own family life and culture. You are not even open to copy what works for others because self-centeredness is in your fiber.  Further, you all lack the EQ and intelligence to  make a multi-gen family a viable solution for you. Heck, how many of you will have even your marriage survive in the next 10 years? [/quote]

I bet this PP is an immigrant or a second gen American. 
And this is why they will rise to the top in a matter of a generation or two. 
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And then back down again like all the generations before them. Nobody stays on top. They will be fully assimilated in mainstream American culture by then.[/quote]

I honestly think they’ll change the culture (not just them but also the objective circumstances). It is harder and harder to stay financially independent, first for kids from their parents, then for parents from their kids. Those kids whose college isn’t paid for and who don’t have help with their downpayment will then not have money to comfortably retire and so forth. Life is changing and it now looks more and more like life in second world countries tbh [/quote]

People will stop having kids. Birth rates are down. That's the answer.[/quote]

Some SES groups are having more kids and others less [/quote]

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