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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, and I say this as someone in a very long-term unusually happy marriage, it does seem like there is a huge element of luck involved. I think it’s foolish to think otherwise. [/quote]

No, it's not "luck". It's a matter of actually getting to know your partner, having meaningful discussions about important things that matter for a future (finances, kids, careers, goals, etc) and being truthful and genuine.  It's not that difficult.  [/quote]

Get over yourself. You will be humbled one day.[/quote]

Because I'm smart enough to pick a partner who shares similar values as me? Been married 30+ years, have been a SAHP for almost 25 years, happily married with spouse who will retire in 3-4 years.  The key to a happy marriage is communication.  that means not just marrying because you are in Lust/Love, but that you have discussed key issues in life and have similar desires.  If you choose to marry someone who cannot manage their money and loves to spend, spend spend on everything, then you will spend a lifetime trying to manage that and dealing with financial issues.  Instead you can choose to marry someone who lives within their means and likes to save.  I married young---we were in graduate school, so poor and had lots of loans.  We were forced to budget and discuss plans.  But we had great job potential and both knew our first task was to pay off the loans and get out of debt---so we kept living on a very tight budget for 3 years (think we pack lunches for work except for 1 day every few weeks---despite everyone else eating out).   
Key was we had those discussions before we got married.  No we are not the same person, but we align our views/desires on most major issues in life---and we learned that by communicating.

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