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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you should have just said sure you can make lunch and put her down for a nap (once you’re dressed etc) if that means he’s taking care of dinner.[/quote]

But I agree with the others that you’re really not sending a good message to your daughter when you hardly see her at all through the week and then don’t want to deal with her for a large chunk of the weekend too. I can imagine a SAHM needing most of a weekend day to herself but not someone who works a lot out of the home. Sorry. Maybe just think about what messages your daughter is getting.[/quote]

What? No. I’ve been a SAHM until my kids all went to school. We never did anything remotely like this. We had occasional girls/guys nights, and we both got alone time when they slept. Weekends and evenings were for the family. [/quote]

What’s your point? You didn’t need this. Other moms do.

I’m a SAHM and I take a full weekday off every week.  It’s great. [/quote]

My point is like wanted to be with my kids and didn’t view them as a burden. Presumably you didn’t have a tantrum if you weekday off got shortened or cancelled occasionally. [/quote]

I would absolutely be pissed at my husband if he did what OP’s husband has done. 100%. And in fact in many ways I threw the ultimate “tantrum” over very similar behavior in that I quit my full time lawyer job. So I don’t think you want to play this game with me because when I was in OP’s shoes I had a very big reaction.  [/quote]

Sounds like you weren’t cut out for the work.[/quote]

The work of having a husband acting like he had a 1950s marriage while I was in biglaw bringing in $$$? True! [/quote]

I don't think that quitting your job to spend more time with your kids is analogous to OP throwing a tantrum in front of her toddler that she has to spend an extra 30 minutes with the child after spending all morning on her own time.[/quote]

I quit my job because I was all done being taken advantage of and treated like a SAHM when I had to work just as much and as hard as my husband. I don’t think any working mom should be shamed for wanting to be paid the same respect as a working dad. [/quote]

So you quit the one thing that was giving you respect (lawyer) and now have the least respected job out there, the SAHM. And now you don’t bring in any income, so you’ve lost your negotiating power with DH.

I don’t get it?

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I see why you’d say that but things are actually working around here, so it worked out for me.

In hindsight I think DH’s job (biglaw partner in an especially intense practice area) just could not be done while being a truly equal partner to someone who also had a high demands job. There have been some articles floating around recently about the unacknowledged value of the “wife at home” for high powered execs, and I think it’s very true. [b]Some jobs are just designed around a “wife at home” assumption.[/b]  [/quote]

gross[/quote]

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