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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Np. This thread makes me re-think all of the comments older women are making to me. I have tried to brush them off. But now I see their hatred, derision and total disdain of new moms. I understand now why they don’t support new moms the way I saw them supported by my grandmas and great grandmas.

I even see this at work. Women are supported by everyone except for the older women. When people mention this, older women say it’s because we’re using our sexuality. Nope[/quote]

Ummm...maybe you are just not worthy of being supported by older women. Who are the older women in your life? Your mother and your MIL, right?  So what makes these women who are grandmoms to your child treat you with hatred, derision and total disdain?  I think the problem is you.

And if enough older women think that you are using your sexuality at work, then maybe you are. Because think about why your own female relative find you toxic.

I was supported by my MIL and mom, and I have been supporting my niece and my DD with their needs. I am honored to be part of their lives but if their thinking and behavior was as toxic as what many women write on this forum then I would have also kept my distance. [/quote]

NP who is an older woman. I support you, new mom. I both experienced know-it-all, intrusive treatment from older women when I was a younger mom, and I believe that you’ve experienced it to.

I think a lot of posters are very upset to learn that their unsolicited advice and unhelpful “just you wait” comments are unwelcome and unappreciative. For some people, it’s easier to throw darts and get defensive then to simply understand that we are all annoying sometimes, and this is a very particular way that some older women are annoying to new moms.[/quote]

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