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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]According to this thread, when a man works 60 hours a week it's to support his family and it is his contribution to the household.  But when a woman works 60 hours a week the extra hours are a hobby, replacing any free time, and show that she's a terrible mother.

OP, as you'll see from the examples on this thread, when couples find it too hard to make it work with 40 hour + 60 hour work weeks, usually the lower earning spouse steps back.  All of the misogynists on this thread are telling you to cut back your hours--have you asked your husband to step back?  He's the lower earning spouse right?  Why can't he go part time?[/quote]

Have you actually READ any of the posts? OP expects her husband do the work of a SAHD but he's not a SAHD and he doesn't want to be. She can't control his behaviors, she can only control her own. So she needs to talk to him about equally splitting responsibilities.[/quote]I've read all of the posts and I think it's crazy that people seem to think it's "fair" that housework is split evenly.  No way.  She's the breadwinner.  That was discussed and agreed before kids.  That has always meant the lesser earning spouse with fewer hours takes on more house stuff.  This isn't controversial at all when it's the *woman* who works less.  Of course the woman does more when her husband works a big job with long hours. 
I've literally never heard of the household stuff being split evenly in that situation.  Never.

So why shouldn't her husband be doing more than 50% of household stuff?  Because people are terribly sexist that's why.  They want her to cut back so the *man* can be the breadwinner.  No way. He needs to step up and support her career.  Women will never ever close the pay gap if 50% is always "equal."  It's not.

No two career couple with a young child has time for video games.  No way.[/quote]

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