Reply to Making SAHM get job to pay for private school

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Making SAHM get job to pay for private school"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love when men who have children pretend like they could work their high earning job if their wife didn't totally sacrifice their career. OP sounds like an entitled douche and I think private school is stupid. [/quote]

Many times the wife didn't have a career to sacrifice.  Yes, some high-powered, highly accomplished and educated women do choose to stay at home.  However, in my observation, most women who opt to stay at home had limited ambition and were destined for a lifetime of middling jobs with limited earning potential.  That's not to put this group down; clearly, they are a majority because not everyone is destined for high accomplishment.  [/quote]

Well either OP's wife was on track to become highly successful, or he's an idiot, because he thinks that with her credentials she will waltz into a $75k-100k job despite her resume gap. [/quote]

I agree, can she really make that kind of income after a long career gap? And even if she can, will her income cover all the added expenses that may be associated with her returning to work, as well as the private school costs? When you both work sometimes you have to resort to convenience (like takeout vs. cooking), you have the cost of a second commute and wear/tear on vehicles- these seem like small things but they eventually add up.

With two working parents, both need to pitch in on housework and covering child related duties, or you need to outsource and pay someone for those duties. If she goes back to work full time she won't realistically be able to accomplish everything she does as a stay at home parent and it would absolutely not be fair to expect that.

I am a working mom and happy with my current work-life balance- I am a physician and my husband is a non-physician with a solid career in IT but works from home and can be the flexible parent to stay home with sick kids, meet the maintenance guy, etc. Sometimes I think it would be really awesome to have one of those amazing stay at home super-wives who cook and clean and manage the kids so I could work 100% and never feel guilty about it- I probably would have specialized in something more time intensive but way more lucrative. Can you imagine how nice it would be to come home to a pinterest looking house and kids and someone serves you dinner and hands you a drink? My husband and kids are great and I love my life but let's be real all the housework/ kid homework/ etc. is a total slog.

Seems like a classic "be careful what you wish for" situation and I would explore whether private school is reasonable. It's not like she wants to splurge on a fancy vacation or something totally frivolous. Some people will do well and be successful no matter their educational environment, and others really do benefit from a private or specialized environment. I say this as a person who went to public schools (some good and some really awful) married to someone who went to private school and definitely thinks he would have had a much harder time in public school. Our kids have attended either public or private depending on different factors, and it was really fortunate my oldest was in a good private school that quickly developed robust full-day synchronous online education rapidly when COVID hit.[/quote]

How does a physician have time to read DCUM and write a lengthy reply like this at 3:08pm on a Monday?[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics