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[quote=Anonymous]Kids are a crap shoot..

I know three ffamilieswho are all very good people.  Super involved with their kids growing up.  Yet it didn't matter.  One son was just a flat out moron.  He would do stupid crap no matter how much the parents disciplined him.  His brain just had to be wired biologically different than most normal peoples' brains.....he had absolutely zero impulse control. He'd constantly do all sorts of drugs.  He ended up trying a stupid stunt jumping out of a window to impress his friends and broke a vertebrate.  He ended having to take opioids to treat the pain and ended up falling down into the hole of opioid addiction.  Imagine an addictive personality getting involved with some of the most addictive substances known to man.  It put the family through pure hell. They spent huge amounts of money on rehab, had things constantly stolen from their house, and ultimately had to cut him out.  This was also all after paying for very nice and expensive private schooling all through grade and high school and even paying for college, which the son failed out of.  The other family I know had a son who got involved in drug dealing and ended up in jail.  He was from a family in plain old UMC suburbia and grew up with all the means in the world. The family basically went broke on lawyers fees.  He ends up getting out of prison after about a year or two, commits more crime and is back in jail, this time completely cutoff from the family.. they're scared to death what he might try once he gets out in about another 6 years and whether he may try to seek retribution against his parents for disowning him and making him face the full brunt of the law and punishment after his parents refused to pay for any more lawyers.  The third example is from a mom who had to raise three kids alone after a divorce.  She never excelled in school, so she never went to college. She had to take bartending and waitressing jobs in her 30s and 40s to keep a roof over their head. Of course those jobs mean you cannot be around during the weekends and won't be around many times at night. She was not a bad person, nor was she a bad mom....she just needed to put food on the table.  Her teenaged kids end up mixing in with the wrong crowd because there was just almost no supervision. By the time the daughter turned 19, she was already pregnant with an out of wedlock daughter.  She got addicted to heroin and other hard drugs by about 20, and by 21 she started doing armed robberies at banks with some other scumbag who was 38 in order to feed her addiction.  Of course she gets caught and was thrown in jail for about 5 years.  She's now late 20s, with a daughter who's about 8, and she has very little job prospects available to put her daughter through college or to provide a good life to her daughter.  The cycle may repeat.

The point being that even if you are the best parent in the world and spend inordinate amounts of money on childcare and education and are constantly involved in your kid's life that you can still somehow raise a POS.  And we aren't even considering the stress involved if you have a child with some chronic medical condition that's expensive to treat or having a kid with some kind of disability that basically wipes out any ability to save.  Have kids?  No thanks.  Between the ridiculous costs for childcare, college, and the total crapshoot of product you can produce even when you are a good parent, why would any sane person want a spawn? [/quote]

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