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[quote=shan1212]I've been fascinated by this case and discovered many interesting tidbits by reading this thread. It's nice to find an old-school forum like there used to be "back in the day."

I can relate to Dawn in her earnestness. I know that my life is marked by privilege in many ways, and I try not to rub it in people's faces, but I assume that the few good friends I have are happy for me and not stewing in jealousy or resentment. No one is forcing you to be my friend, after all.

I have a friend/acquaintance that I suspect is very much like Dawn. We run a chapter doing activism together, and I can't put my finger on why we have never become closer friends. We are literally the two people doing the most for our chosen cause in our community and yet . . . we are just out of sync. I have friends who have disparaged her. One said, "She's so cute that I think she gets away with a lot." OK, but still so very vague, right? I think there's just something about her earnestness, even for me, a self-identified earnest person, that grates. But this is not a fatal flaw, and when I complain about her, it's only about how she always forgets to include me on communications and then is befuddled when I don't know what is going on. I tell people, "She's a wonderful person; we just don't mesh for some reason."

What strikes me about this case is how many people seem to think that lying and plagiarizing is OK if you don't like the person. If I have a friend complaining that they can't meet any decent people, I point out that you get to choose the kind of people you let into your life. There are so many good people out there . . . just think about where they are going to be found. They'll be donating their time, spreading awareness, building community, working on self-actualization.

But if you none of your friends do that stuff, then I suppose you think it's normal just to sh*t talk people for trying to make the world better and to lie when the heat is on you. Still, I don't get why people would look at Sonya's web of lies and think, but she was triggered by this annoying lady! So that makes it OK to keep digging and digging and digging? I agree with the assessment that perhaps Celeste Ng, with her cachet, made Sonya feel emboldened. I felt there was something sniveling about the way Sonya kept pretending in her texts to feel bad just so that her friends would say, "No! She deserves it! F*** DFD!"

As a woman, I do want to be careful that I'm not holding women to a higher standard than men. A lot of artists live unconventional lives, right? It kind of goes with the territory. Were people in the 50s saying, "But is Hemingway NICE?" That said, I've read one and a half of Ng's books. Didn't love the first and couldn't finish the second. So I'm not going to be running out to buy whatever comes out next. Same with Larson; I read The Kindest linked here and, indeed, the prose is bad.[/quote]

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