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NP. I think people are way overreacting to this poster. The things she mentions she doesn't want to do include [b]cleaning up spills in the kitchen and packing lunches[/b]. Do you really think it's a requirement of great parenting to be the one who does[b] that mundane crap?[/b] Do you think kids even notice who does those things? [b]Wiping noses and doing homework[/b] are a little different, because they're hands on, but anyone who says that it's bad parenting to not want to do your kids' [b]laundry[/b], for example, is being ridiculous. [/quote]

I will preface this by saying that I genuinely don’t care how other people raise their kids, but I actually think this attitude is part of our societal tendency to degrade women and traditional women’s work (and yes I was a WOHM).  I actually get not wanting to do it, but the condescending dismissiveness is offensive, especially since you are almost certainly paying other women to do it for you (and your spouse, obviously).

I mean outsource if you want, but maybe try to show a little respect?  Clearly if you are willing to pay someone to do those tasks you understand that they are tasks worth doing, even if you’re too good for that kind of thing yourself…[/quote]

Ok, you're really reading into that post, but if you notice, what was mentioned was parenting. By parents. It didn't say moms. So if in your household it's the mom that does all that stuff, then maybe you're the problem. In my household, there's no distinction between mom or dad when it comes to that stuff. Our kids were formula-fed because after a double mastectomy there was no choice, so other than actually carrying them, there wasn't anything I did that my husband didn't also do, and the same is true today. The point in that post had nothing to do with women doing the work. Nothing at all. The point is that parenting doesn't have to include all the little things your kids never see. The people who want to act like it does are martyrs and should at least own that that's what they're being. [/quote]

Hence the use of the word “traditional “… 🙄🙄🙄[/quote]

So if it's no longer considered women's work, what's your problem?[/quote]

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