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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] So you dad told you who he is, and is not, having sex with? Otherwise how exactly did he lie to you? 
As to putting energy elsewhere: his romantic sexual energy has NOTHING to do with his children, and your mom did not want this energy, therefore nobody in the family was cheated of anything. 
Again, it's YOU who has some weird issue here, confusing an adult's sexual behavior with their child relations. These are totally unrelated (excluding incestuous pedophiles).[/quote]

You sound like a narcissist with terrible reasoning abilities.  In our society, kids who live with married parents generally assume their parents are in a monogamous relationship.  When they find out that’s not true and one parent secretaries tge other, it rocks the kids’ world.  This really isn’t hard to understand.  Stop pretending that everyone’s life is full of neat little boxes, just because that’s what you need to do to rationalize your crappy behavior.[/quote]

That "assumed married in monogamous relationship" includes a reciprocal presumption that parents are, you know, actually having sex with each other. Because people are not monogamous with a sexually inactive partner. If, as you believe, kids CARE about their parents' marital sexual status, then their world should be equally rocked when told one spouse is sexless, which totally explains why the normal libido spouse is going elsewhere.

Stop pretending that kids really know (or care) what goes on with their parents' sex life.[/quote]

You truly are a tool.

It is not about the sex you simpleton.  It is about the lies and deceit.  That is what will have an affect on your children.  [/quote]

Different poster but I agree with PP: kids do not and should not care about their parents’ sex lives whether marital or extramarital.
A cheating spouse is [b]deceitful to the spouse—not the child[/b].
Marriage is between husband and wife. Not parent and child. 
A reality check of what is pretend and what is not is not just with cheating.
Stop making marriage just about faithfulness or lack thereof. It is more complex.
Some people cheat to leave. Some people cheat to stay in a marriage. Regardless, sex has nothing to do with kids. People who involve their kids and disclose an affair to purposefully harm the relationship with the other parent is far worse than a cheater. [/quote]

No they are not. They break the foundation of the family unit. They put in jeopardy their children's emotional and financial health.

It has everything to do with the children, you think you are compartmentalizing but you are not. Your action affect everybody around you. If you cared about your kids you would see it but you are selfish and manipulative and can't see the truth. [/quote]

Since you are so pro-family for the sake of kids, then you really should be a big supporter of affairs. Because, in the typical cheating-due-to-sexless-marriage scenario, an affair is the ONLY way to prevent divorce.[/quote]
DP... if both parties are willing, that's one thing. But that's not what we are referring to.  Typical behavior of cheaters to justify their infidelity.[/quote]

Why does it matter if both parties are willing? A marriage is saved which otherwise would divorce. And PP is anti divorce.
Not to mention that an uninterested sexless spouse does not get to vote on the other’s sexual choices.[/quote]

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