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I'm going to requote the person I was thinking of, who called it shameful that people "limit" themselves to one child. This is has nothing to do with whatever point you are making about your brother. If you accept his choice, great for you, I have a few friends who have chosen not to have kids and they get shit for ALL THE TIME. They've been called "selfish" to their face. Again, it's people being hung up on other's life choices for no reason. Sure, there are people who don't care, which I think is healthy. My point is that there are clearly people who are assholes about it. [b]And many people have called them out on this thread, and every time this topic comes up on DCUM, which is often.[/b][/quote]

Hmmmm. Could that be because this is a forum for people who have kids? Do you honestly think the tone wouldn't be the reverse if this were a forum for people who were single and loving it? I wonder why you insist that people have to be hung up on other peoples' choices just because they want to discuss them?

And raising kids does involve putting other's needs before your own. To the extent that you don't want to do that, then yes, you're being selfish - i.e. principally concerned with yourself and your well being. My brother says plainly that he's too selfish to have kids. However you characterize it, that's what it boils down to. I think it bears discussing because lots of attitudes flow from that. People who don't have kids are often (not always) as invested in the future. They're less likely to support the cost of paying for public services for children - like schools and libraries. They're also less likely to support child friendly work policies.

Let me be clear: many people should not be parents so it's a good thing that those who are unsuited don't have kids. But I don't think you need to appoint yourself as the advocate and defender of people who have chosen to remain childless. [/quote]

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