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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP -

I am glad your daughter is in a better place, and it is natural with some distance from the event that she feels better.  I can understand why she doesn't want you to tell the coach or school, and why you want to stay true to her wishes.  I am really sympathetic to your position, [b]BUT I really think the coach should know about this and not just for your daughter's sake.  There is something really rotten happening with her entire team[/b].  Posters keep citing the two ring leaders, but unfortunately it is a much bigger problem than this.  The entire team was in on it, had to keep silent for weeks - that is pretty calculated and disturbing and someone (ideally the coach) needs to get to the bottom of it.

You don't need to go with the nuclear approach that some are suggesting of calling colleges or alerting the media.  You don't even need to demand specific punishments.  I think you said some on the varsity team knows about this.  There is a chance that the captains will go to the coach, but I think a neutral, factual explanation from an adult is in order.

Wishing for the best for both of you.[/quote]

I agree.

I would say something.

Ignoring stuff like this is how we end up with news reports of varsity soccer players ending up sodomized in the locker room as part of some "team initiation" gone wrong. It never starts with the broomstick. There are piles of small humiliations leading up to this kind of thing.

If these girls are this bad now, imagine them in a year or two.[/quote]

Good God, shut up, both of you.  I initially said that if I were OP, I'd have contacted the coach, too.  But her daughter asked her not to, OP decided to accede to her wishes, and so that ship has sailed.  OP has made her decision, and she, and her daughter are at peace with it.  This constant second-guessing just is not helpful, and ignores the fact that OP's daughter is not a little kid (she's at least 15 yo, from the context) and is entitled to have a say in how this is handled.  The fact that you (and numerous others) feel like you know better because you're read a half dozen posts from OP is ludicrous - you're just flexing your helicopter Mom tendencies.  And as for the suggestion that OP needs to do this for the good of the school, or the team, or society, and that silence is how kids end up "sodomized in the locker room as part of some "team initiation"" - stuff it.  OP is concerned about her daughter's well-being.   If her daughter wanted her to take action, or was experiencing ongoing issues, I may feel differently, but there's been no indication from OP that's the case.  
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Hi mom of the bully!  :)

I was wondering how long it would take for you to figure out a way to protect your sweet daughter, and finally you've chosen a strategy.[/quote]

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