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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^both of these responses are well-said.

In my Midwest Christian upbringing it was a lose-lose situation as a woman. You either followed the church’s teaching to shun sex until marriage, and thus were inexperienced/prudish, or you had sexual experiences and were called impure for it (or worse names). And whether married or not, sex had a really patriarchal vibe to it, because there was no education or examples of what egalitarian, mutually pleasurable,  emotionally-connected intimacy looked like. It was just always depicted as like, a guy’s conquest of a girl.[/quote]

I was born in the mid-60s and raised in rural Indiana.  My family was one of the few non-practicing Christian families (we were, though, culturally Christian).  The responses from the 2 PPs about sex ed in their areas seems identical to mine.  Sex was only between married heterosexuals, a husband could not rape his wife, if you 'led a boy on', it was your fault if it went further than you wanted to, men/boys might masturbate because they had needs - good women didn't have those needs, and no one wanted to marry tarnished goods.

It took me a long time to move beyond this conditioning. [/quote]

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